As a therapist who works closely with women navigating life’s challenges, I often get asked, “What books would you recommend if I want to start working on myself?”
My answer? Start with resources that help you connect the dots between your past and present, strengthen your emotional and spiritual health, and encourage you to live more fully in your God-given identity.
These five books are my go-to recommendations, whether you’re just beginning your healing journey or deep in the work of self-discovery.
1. The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
If you’ve ever wondered why certain memories, experiences, or emotions seem “stuck” in your body, this book will be an eye-opener. Dr. van der Kolk explains the connection between trauma, the brain, and the body in a way that’s both scientific and deeply compassionate. You’ll learn how past experiences can shape your physical and emotional well-being and what steps can help you move toward healing.
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2. Captivating — John & Stasi Eldredge
This Christian classic speaks directly to the heart of women, reminding us that we are fully known and deeply loved by God. The Eldredges explore how God designed women to reflect His beauty, strength, and nurturing nature and how life’s wounds can distort how we see ourselves. It’s part encouragement, part gentle challenge, and all about reclaiming your true identity.
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3. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality — Peter Scazzero
This was actually a recommendation from one of my clients and it turned out to be incredible. Scazzero tackles the often-ignored truth that you can’t be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally unhealthy. He provides practical steps for slowing down, becoming self-aware, and letting God transform your inner life. Perfect for women who want faith and mental health to work hand-in-hand.
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4. Permission to Feel — Marc Brackett, Ph.D.
If you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive” or struggled to put your emotions into words, this book is for you. Brackett explains the science of emotions and teaches a simple yet powerful tool called the “RULER” approach to help you recognize, understand, and manage your feelings. As a therapist, I love how practical and empowering this book is for everyday life.
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5. Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? — Dr. Julie Smith
Written by a clinical psychologist, this book feels like having a therapist in your back pocket. Dr. Smith shares bite-sized, actionable tools for managing anxiety, improving self-worth, navigating grief, and building resilience. It’s clear, relatable, and full of “aha” moments that make you wonder why no one taught you these things sooner. Great for women who want practical strategies they can use right away.
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Final Thoughts
Whether you’re curled up with a cup of coffee or journaling through your thoughts, these books are incredible starting points for personal development, healing, and growth. Take it one page at a time. God’s work in your life is both a process and a promise that He’s not done with you yet.
Sarah Murcko 
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