Sarah Murcko

How to Know If You’re in a Healthy Relationship

We hear a lot about red flags in relationships—but what about the green ones? Healthy relationships aren’t perfect, but they are built on mutual effort, trust, and respect. If you’re wondering whether your relationship is on solid ground, here are a few signs to look for:

1. You feel safe, emotionally and physically.
You can express your feelings without fear of judgment, ridicule, or retaliation. You feel heard, valued, and supported especially during conflict. This honestly may be hard to determine during the honeymoon phase, but within the first few conflicts you’ll be able to assess how true this feels.

2. You both take responsibility.
In a healthy relationship, both partners are willing to own their mistakes, apologize, and grow. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about being accountable.

3. Boundaries are respected.
You both understand the importance of personal space, time apart, and individual needs. Boundaries aren’t seen as threats and they’re honored.

4. Communication is open and honest.
You talk through things, not around them. Even when it’s hard, you’re willing to have the conversation instead of letting resentment build.

5. You genuinely enjoy each other.
Beyond the serious stuff, you laugh together, have fun, and want to be around each other. Friendship is a key ingredient.

No relationship is flawless, but a healthy one creates space for growth, repair, and connection. If you’re seeing these signs—celebrate them. And if not, it’s never too late to start building toward them.